Want to know how I turned the corner on a self-confidence problem?
Apologies if it sounds lame, but I started:
The Action habit.
Up to that point, I had more or less been assuming that I would naturally just slide into the career situation that was perfectly suited to me. (It may sound weird that a grown man would think like that, but I did.)
Surprise, surprise, that hadn’t happened.
A friend who did corporate training for a living (and has since morphed into a life coach) told me, “Dude, cream rises to the top. But it’s got to be in milk first. If you’re not excelling, are you in the right environment for you to excel?”
He had me pegged.
I was NOT in the right environment.
That conversation, ironically, set me on the road to aerospace.
It took a few years, and lot of failed attempts, but I eventually pulled it off. (Details in a future post.)
When you develop the habit of self-analysis, and take action to correct the things you don’t like . . . . . your lack of self-confidence will begin to correct as well.
One tool I have found useful is:
In any situation, 20% of the inputs are typically responsible for 80% of the outputs.
Vilfredo Pareto found it holds true for stock portfolios, company profits, and the pea plants in his garden.
Apply Pareto’s law to yourself.
What are the 20% of activities, skills, books, people, environments, etc, in your life that give you 80% of your enjoyment? (Professional and otherwise.)
Focus on those, eliminate the rest.
Are you happiest working in a team, with lots of discussion and banter? Or on your own, at home or in a library? Or a mixture of the two?
Similarly, what 20% of those same things cause 80% of your headaches and heartaches?
Eliminate those, and leave the rest.
Put another way: Play to your strengths, and craft your career and working environment for those strengths to be maximized.
Team up with other people whose strengths are your weaknesses.
In the next post, I’d like to suggest what is your second most important technical skill. (HINT: It isn’t really a technical skill, either.)